Friends for Life: Our Need for Companionship
At the end of each
day of creation, God wrote an epitaph: “And God saw that it was good.” But even
before Adam and Eve’s sinned, God declared that something in Eden was not good:
“It is not good for man to be alone.” Though this first couple enjoyed intimate
fellowship with their Creator and lived in an unspoiled world, they were still
incomplete. God created us to be social beings who need others. Marriage may be
our best opportunity to enjoy this companionship.
When Cathy and I
were dating we were together constantly -- meeting between classes, sharing
meals, attending sporting events, taking long walks, joining a campus Bible
study, participating in retreats.
But much of modern
life pulls couples apart. A husband works at an insurance agency while his wife
teaches in a grade school. He hunts and fishes with his buddies while she
participates in a book club with her girlfriends. He serves on the finance
committee at church while she teaches a Sunday School class. With such disjointed
lives many couples drift apart.
Knowing that
relationship building takes time, God gave the following instructions to new
husbands: “If a man has married, he must not be sent to war or have any other
duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring
happiness to his wife.” (Deut.24:5) Wow! A yearlong honeymoon! If marriages are
going to be strong, then husbands and wives must lavish time on each other in
significant ways. Cathy and I have continued to cultivate our bond by sharing housework and
yard work, reading books to each other, mentoring other couples, watching
a favorite television program, exercising together, entertaining
in our home, nurturing grandchildren.
Such extravagance
may feel like a “waste” of time. Why would God ask us to pour ourselves out for
our mates when there is so much aching human need? Because marriage is the
school where we learn how to love another person: “If we cannot love our own
favorite person through all of their ups and downs and trials and changes, then
how will we ever love the poor and the unlovely and the forgotten of the
world?” (Mike Mason)
My marriage “is the
place where love must first be practiced before it can truly be practiced
anywhere else.”
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